Seriously so frustrated. Lately I've been feeling more and more incompetent as a mother and at Ava's checkup yesterday, the incompetence built even more. I know that the things Ava has to overcome are WAY small compared to others, but right now they feel like huge mountains to me.
Obstacle #1: Ava has ridiculously dry skin. Turns out she doesn't do well with the cheap stuff. We've just switched to Aveeno baby lotion and so far found that it works the best. It's still hard to see her skin peeling because it's so dry. Luckily, it doesn't bug her too much.
Obstacle #2: Horrible diaper rash. Ava has had the diaper rash that never ends. It is so huge and inflamed. Again, luckily, it doesn't bother her too much. She is such a champ. But, we've had to get her on a prescription for that as well.
Obstacle #3: Hemangioma. Ava has a large red blotch on her back. It wasn't there when she was a newborn but it started showing up around 2 weeks. It has been getting bigger and puffier. It almost looks like someone cut a raspberry in half and glued it on her back. It's not something that bugs her but if it doesn't start to go away on it's own, it will have to be lasered off.
Obstacle #4: Reflux. Turns out she's not a "happy puker". Mind you, she still thinks it's hilarious when she pukes. This is the obstacle I am having the hardest time with. Feelings of guilt and frustration keep getting larger. We thought it was a bit unusual how much Ava puked but she never cried with any of it and she seemed to be gaining weight. Here in the past week or so, the puke has been getting out of control. There would be projectile vomit everywhere, every time she ate. If I pump, and give her a bottle, she doesn't puke nearly as much. But, when I nurse her, it's an explosion. Pumping has been such a hassle and I haven't been able to find a decent pump and it takes so much time that I just don't bother with it. So at the appointment yesterday, they weighed her. She gained weight, but not as much as she should have been. Please stamp a big FAILURE across my forehead. So now, Ava is on a new medicine that will hopefully help with the reflux. I am also having to pump all the time now, which means my schedule every day consists of pumping for half an hour, feeding Ava for half an hour, keeping Ava propped up for another half an hour, having an hour to get things done, then back to pumping. On top of that, I'm feeling (weirdly enough) so sad not to have that nursing time with Ava.
So there you have it, my frustration as a mother. It makes me so sad to thing of all these little obstacles that are out of Ava's power to take care of. As sad as I feel, I also feel really blessed that what she has are things that are pretty easily cared for. I am so grateful for my beautiful baby who somehow has the patience to deal with me and is still somehow the happiest, smiliest baby I have ever seen.